by Chris Lewis, EdS, LPC And therein lies the problem. In my practice I have found that many people are able to identify the traits of codependency that haunt and hound their relationships and their lives, but don’t always understand...

By Chris Lewis, Ed.S., LPC In your relationship, do you: Often feel as if your words have been misunderstood, twisted, and thrown back at you very differently than you intended them? Get blamed for pretty much anything that goes wrong...

by Judy Wilkinson, LCSW Do you have the hardest struggles with those you love the most? Don’t you wish you could change that? And yet, we can feel like we are sinking in quicksand. When we think of the number...

by Karen Lenzi, MA, LPC Frequently, couples in a marriage have repeating patterns of conflict, like familiar well-practiced dance moves that take two (to tango). These negative dances are repeated over and over and run a predictable course with misunderstood...

by Chris Lewis, Ed.S., LPC Leo Tolstoy, in the classic novel Anna Karenina, said that “Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.” While I am not willing to say I completely agree that...

by Chris Lewis, Ed.S., LPC She: Where is the man I married? He: Maybe he ran off with the woman I married! Often after years of being together, couples will say they have become like roommates, living in the same...

by Chris Lewis, Ed.S., LPC There are actually a lot of rules that govern unhappy families, but here are three that I come across often while working with families, going to (eavesdropping at) the grocery store, eating (spying) at restaurants,...

by Gary Alexander, MS, LMFT, LAC Are you thinking, “That sounds absurd! How can caring for someone else possibly be toxic?” If so, then please read on because you are on the right track toward a happier and healthier life...

Chris Lewis, EdS, LPC Trust me. I know what it’s like. You’ve just had the billionth phone call from the ex about why he can’t take the kids again this weekend after you’ve made, and cancelled and made again, plans...